The Introvert’s Guide on How to Make Friends at Uni

Starting university can feel like a big step, especially if you’re an introvert. The idea of meeting lots of new people might sound more exhausting than exciting—and you’re not alone! In fact, a study commissioned by Chegg found that 44% of students have trouble meeting new people and making friends.

But don’t worry, it’s entirely possible to find your people and make meaningful connections while staying true to who you are. In this guide, we’ll explore how to make friends at university so you can enjoy the full experience.

Small talk & breaking the ice

As introverts, small talk isn’t always our favourite. It can feel forced or awkward, but it is the first step towards getting to know someone. To make those initial conversations feel a little more manageable, you could ask open-ended questions, such as “Have you found any good study spots on campus?” Questions like these show interest in the other person and give them a chance to share a bit about themselves, which can lead to a more natural, flowing conversation.

You should also try to find common ground with the people that you do get chatting with. Whether they’re carrying a book you’ve read or talking about a club you’re considering joining, finding something you have in common can make the conversation feel much more comfortable. At Here!, we take your well-being seriously. So if you do need extra support in breaking the ice, our on-site support team will be happy to help. 

Join clubs & societies

There are plenty of university clubs and societies for introverts, each with a unique community. The good news is that joining a club doesn’t mean throwing yourself into high-energy events or parties; many clubs offer spaces where you can connect with like-minded people at your own pace. Whether it’s book club, film society, or even chess club, these groups often attract people with similar interests, making it easier to find something to talk about with other members. Most clubs and societies host introductory sessions at the beginning of the term. These sessions are generally low-key, giving you a chance to get a feel for the group without committing. They’re also a perfect opportunity to meet people who share your interests in a relaxed environment.

Online communities: building connections virtually

One of the best tips for introverts at university is to explore your options online. If face-to-face interactions feel like a big leap, online spaces can be a fantastic way to connect with other students on your own terms. 

Most universities have online groups on social media platforms where students discuss everything from coursework to campus life. Joining these groups can be a low-pressure way to stay updated on university happenings, get advice, and even make new friends. You can get involved in discussions without the immediate pressure of an in-person chat.

Some clubs and societies host virtual events, such as online gaming nights, film watch parties, or virtual book discussions. These events are ideal if you prefer getting to know people in smaller, controlled settings. You can participate from the comfort of your room, so it’s a great option if you’re feeling a bit drained but still want to be social.

Alternatively, you can also utilise apps, sites and forums that connect you with people in similar situations. From Facebook groups and The Student Room to Bumble BFF and Yubo, you can find people who attend your university and get to know them before you meet.

Shared activities & study groups

One of the best ways to meet new people is through shared activities that don’t require constant conversation. Here are a few ways to build connections with people while focusing on something other than talking.

1. Join a Study Group

Studying with others can be a wonderful way to make friends while keeping the pressure off socialising. Study groups are often focused, productive spaces where the focus is on coursework, but there’s usually time for casual conversation and even a bit of bonding over mutual struggles with deadlines and assignments.

2. Try Group Activities with Minimal Interaction

Some clubs and activities are naturally more introvert-friendly because they involve a shared focus rather than endless chatter. Art workshops, nature walks, film screenings, and even volunteering activities can be excellent options. These activities allow for natural, relaxed interaction without putting too much spotlight on socialising itself.

3. Attend “Silent” Events

Some universities offer silent reading groups, meditation sessions, or “quiet” hours in specific spaces on campus. These events might sound a bit niche, but they’re actually great for meeting fellow introverts and people who value quiet company.

4. Cheap Nights In

Living on a student budget doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice the opportunity to bond with friends, either! From watching movies to playing games, there are plenty of cheap nights in to choose from—so grab your housemates and have some fun.

Remember, making friends at university is not about “overcoming” introversion; it’s about embracing who you are and finding ways to connect that feel comfortable and natural. University socialising for introverts can be a rewarding experience when approached through comfortable and low-pressure opportunities that embrace your personal preferences. There’s no rush to make dozens of friends right away, so take it slow. Start with small, manageable steps, whether that’s joining a club, attending an online event, or simply saying “hello” to a classmate. Your people are out there—they’re just waiting for you to meet them on your own terms.

If you’re looking for student accommodation, we’ve got housing up and down the country—and it’s the perfect place to help you make friends, too! From regular social events to on-site support teams, Here! offers an introvert-friendly university life whilst giving you the opportunity to meet new people.